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[re:tell] The Road to Self-Love

Post-secondary education is a whirlwind. You’re stretched thin with encroaching deadlines, you’re trying to maintain a healthy lifestyle and a personal life under financial stress, and all the while, trying to stay sane! 

After graduating from university, I went back to college to complete a post-grad. I struggled with anxiety and self-doubt and on top of it, I had to deal with a break up for the first time. I reached out to Real Campus and was provided with the tools to help me focus. Each session was an opportunity to better myself and grow. Over my sessions, I was able to build my own self-help toolbox. I pulled myself up out of self-doubt and discovered a confidence I never knew I had.

They say it’s not about the destination but the journey, and as cliche as it sounds, it’s been true for me. The road to self-love and acceptance was definitely hard but worth it. There were many days I didn’t want to practice using my new tools. I wanted to sink back into my old, comfortable ways. Each time it happened, I thought back to my goal and to how far I had come. I relied on my counsellor for the support to push me and help me do things that I knew I had to do but was afraid to.

Once, this meant having a talk with one of my good friends about how they hurt my feelings and were not being supportive. Before therapy, I buried my feelings and let them eat away at my self-worth. This time, I was able to have a mature conversation with my friend and it actually went well! It was such a relief to know I had been scared of something that did not happen. As a bonus, it boosted my confidence and reduced my anxiety.

Therapy also helped me to recognize the friends and people in my life who were doing more harm than good. It gave me the confidence to do something about it. I found the support I needed elsewhere and I am much happier because of it. 

Therapy was a fundamental player in my journey to self-love and self-confidence. The stress of postsecondary education, the anxiety caused by keeping people in my life who were not the right fit, and the lack of confidence I had in myself was all piling up. Real Campus helped me to deal with each stressor one step at a time and helped me realize that it’s okay to ask for help.

I am a strong believer that thoughts become things. With a new confidence and sense of myself, I was able to find a full-time job in my field right out of college. Therapy allowed me to see my worth and to honestly enjoy each day that much more.

Sarah graduated from Seneca College in August 2019. 

This blog is part of our re:tell series that showcases stories from Canadian postsecondary students.