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Double Dose On SELF-LOVE This Spring!

Double Dose On SELF-LOVE This Spring!

This year has been hard, it’s time to choose you!! 

Take the chance to commit to yourself.

It doesn’t matter what your relationship status is – you can double dose on self-love.

I’m not talking ego-driven, narcissistic, self-aggrandizing stuff here. This is real, unadulterated, self-worth boosting, confidence building, unconditional love of yourself.

You know, all that love bottled up inside that oozes for others – get you some of that, like asap!

You want the kinda self-love that we should all be giving ourselves, no matter our flaws and limitations. No, not after you find the ‘right’ partner, become a success, and trim off those extra Covid-19 lbs. Now.

You deserve to love yourself, as you are. Get radical. Accept yourself, flaws and all. Don’t worry, you can still work on those things that aren’t serving you so well, because that’s self-love too.

Your flaws don’t take away from your worth – hint – perfection does not exist. So, unless you like eternal limbo, stop waiting to get all your ducks in a row before you take your You-Relationship to the next level.

Take this unusual time to break free from the esteem-crushing comparison game that leaves you void, angry, depressed, and feeling alone. Instead, fill up on that double dose of compassionate self-love!

It all starts with a commitment to YOU.

Need a place to start, try these tips:

  1. Get Radical – accept yourself, flaws, and all. Period.

  2. Be aware – start to tune into yourself so you can be aware of your needs and meet them with compassion and love – are you hungry, sad, tired, angry, and so on.

  3. Let go – leave old expectations and self-limiting beliefs behind. Forge a new way.

  4. Forgive – yourself for any past wrongdoings and mistakes you’ve made, unhealthy relationship patterns, and the time it took for you to get to this place of committing to love yourself.

  5. Write – make a contract with yourself to focus on self-love. Write a letter to yourself to help you forgive and let go. Journal your thoughts. Write about your future self-loved you in present tense.

  6. Affirm – create “I AM” affirmations that highlight the loveable person you are and/or want to be – I am loveable, I am beautiful, I am intelligent, I am talented, etc. Repeat them often.

  7. Boost Esteem – try to boost your esteem daily – list the things that you are proud of, your strengths, accomplishments…no matter how small.

  8. Reach Out – just because you’re focused on loving you from within doesn’t mean you have to go it alone. Surround yourself with loving kindness support, whether friendship, a partner, family, community, or a professional.

  9. Fill Your Soul-Cup – tap into what brings you joy and fill your boots with it. Whether it’s being creative, getting out in nature, music, a hobby – whatever it is, make it a priority.

  10. Invest – Invest in YOU – your health, mental health, and wellbeing. And, well, it’s v-day, so treat yourself and indulge a little. Pamper yourself. Buy yourself flowers or a treat. Spoil yourself with you-time.

And remember, self-love is a journey, and not always an easy one. Be patient and gentle with yourself. Just always come back to your commitment to keep loving yourself, imperfections and all.

Getting Better Sleep

Getting Better Sleep

Many of us think of sleep as a luxury or indulgence — something that we give to ourselves sparingly or even as a reward.

But sleep is a vital, often neglected, component of every person’s overall health and well-being. It’s important because it enables the body to repair and be fit and ready for another day. It’s important to remember is that sleep affects your health and mental wellness just as much as exercise, diet, etc. It affects learning, memory, mood, and even insight.

Are you cheating yourself out of a full 8-hours of sleep?

Here are some of the benefits you’re missing:

1. Memory

There’s ample research on the correlation between sleep and memory. In fact, most scientists think that sleep embeds the things we’ve learned or experienced over the course of our day into our memories.

Learned something new? Want to store away that wonderful moment from your day forever? Sleep will help you retain that information.

Lack of sleep results in a lack of focus, impairing you to remember just where you placed your house keys. With so much of our mood associated with being able to get through the day without added stress, sleeping might help mitigate the stress and increase your mood.

2. Learning

Just like with memory, a sluggish mind means a lack of focus and a significant drop in productivity and comprehension. In youth, a lack of sleep often can result in hyperactivity or even the ability to focus in school.

3. Combatting Disease

One of the most recent breakthroughs in neuroscience is the realization that sleep actually keeps our brains healthy. Amyloid plaque is the sticky buildup that accumulates on the outside of nerve cells, creating beta-amyloid, which is toxic to our brains and now thought to be the cause of numerous brain diseases, including Alzheimer’s.

So, how does our body rid our brain of such damaging plaque? Sleep.

4. Psychiatric Disorder Deterrent

There’s an undeniable relationship between sleep and those who suffer from psychiatric disorders: they often don’t sleep. However, by ensuring 8 hours of sleep a night, things such as anxiety, depression, bipolar disorder, and even ADHD often see an improvement of symptoms.

The verdict is in. If you’re not getting 8 hours of sleep, you’re not just missing out on benefits; you’re potentially setting your brain up for failure.

Some best practices tips for healthy sleep habits:

  • Create a regular routine. This means a bedtime and wake-up time that you commit to.

  • No screens an hour before bedtime. That means no phone, iPad, computer or laptop, or TV. The blue light given off by our technological devices stimulates our bodies into thinking it’s still light outside and not time for bed.

  • Consider taking Melatonin, a naturally occurring substance in your body that helps signal when it’s time to sleep. Unlike prescription sleep medications, melatonin is all-natural and non-addictive.

  • If you are having trouble getting to sleep, trying getting up and do something calm and relaxing until you feel tired again.

  • Workout. If your body is tired, your mind will follow suit. Exercise not only improves your physical self but also your mental one. Breathing exercizes and stretching before bed also helps to engage your parasympathetic nervous system (the digest and rest system) to help calm yourself.

  • Meditate before bed. Finding your inner zen can help slow breathing and clear the mind, letting you fall into sleep easier than without it.

While these tips are helpful for people who are experiencing minimal sleep challenges, sleep issues can be an indication that something else is going on. In this case, it may be helpful to talk to someone. Sleep is an important part of your overall well-being, so make sure to give it the priority it deserves.

The Truth About Self-Care – What You Can’t Find On The Internet

The Truth About Self-Care – What You Can’t Find On The Internet

Self-care has become a really popular concept in the last couple of years.

With a quick google and hashtag search, you can find hundreds of self-care activities like exploring a hike, drawing a bubble bath, aromatherapy, meditating, #spaday, etc…. It’s inspiring that people are awakening to the idea of turning their own kindness and compassion inward and that there are resources at your fingertips!

The internet and social media are doing a great job helping people get started with self-care, but what you won’t find online is the “self” part of self-care. If you’re going to care for yourself, you need to look inside and get acquainted with yourself and your needs. A crucial part of self-care is that it is personal and unique to you. It’s empty without inner work and self-reflection. It’s an ongoing and active effort, and it isn’t always pleasant.

Self-Reflection

It’s simple: we all have different needs. To get to know them, you need to think for yourself. The first step of a self-care strategy is taking a moment to consider what your current physical and emotional state is in. Do you need to regenerate? Do you need to maintain? Do you need to improve? Brainstorm some ideas that might help you reach those goals. This is where the internet can be useful if you want help with making a plan and building a habit; but it’s your job to pick what those habits are. If you tried to do some self-reflection and you’re just not sure where to start, try some tips online and then commit time to considering how that activity impacted you. Consider your mood before and after the activity, consider how your body felt before, during and after.

Keep in mind that some activities won’t have an immediate impact, rather they provide a cumulative effect over time. For example, those who begin meditation often report that it is very frustrating, brings up unpleasant emotions, and that it’s physically difficult to sit still. Overtime, these growing pains subside, and practitioners can experience relaxation and improved focus.

It’s helpful to follow each self-care activity with a moment of reflection. Writing in a notebook or phone app can be useful for keeping track of these thoughts. I understand this isn’t everyone’s jam, but at least take a moment to consider and decide whether you will keep a record or not. Make a commitment either way; change commitments as needed.

What you Need isn’t always Nice

Sometimes self-care is being able to enjoy that extra slice of birthday cake, and sometimes self-care is getting real with yourself and admitting that you need to change. That’s right, it isn’t just #treatyourself.

Sometimes self-care is apologizing. Sometimes it is setting boundaries by saying no. Sometimes it is doing your physiotherapy exercises. Sometimes it is creating an ergonomic work-from-home space.

Sometimes self-care is choosing to have a decaf coffee because you are already physically anxious.

Sometimes self-care is providing service to others by donating or volunteering to a cause that is close to your heart.

Sometimes self-care is letting your house chores wait so you can spend quality time with your significant other, chosen family, or furry friend.

Self-care can be an infinite number of things as long as it is promoting your emotional, physical, and mental health.

Ongoing & Active

Like physical exercise or fuelling your car’s gas tank, it’s not something you do just once and check it off your list. It is an ongoing process. Some weeks it is easy and other weeks it is difficult. As life changes, so will your self-care needs. Check in with yourself on a monthly basis and consider what you might need to adjust.

If you had any thoughts while reading this post, I encourage you to type it out or write it down somewhere. Anything you thought while reading this (even if it was a disagreement) is an indication of your self-care philosophy. Use this as a starting point and take it from there!

My hope is that you’ll flex your reflection skills and come up with a self-care activity that wasn’t mentioned in this post. What self-care activity would you do even if no one knew you were doing it?

5 Ways To Make The Most Of Your On-Demand Therapy Session

5 Ways To Make The Most Of Your On-Demand Therapy Session

Most people regularly schedule their therapy much like they do hair appointments. But are your mental health needs as consistent as your hair growth?

In this case, one size does not fit all. Good thing there are other approaches that deliver results! Shift is proud to partner with Maple to offer video sessions on demand so you can get support when you need it the most. It’s convenient and approachable support that fits your needs.

With on-demand sessions, the focus is on quality over quantity. It’s best to go into your session prepared. Follow these five strategies to get the most of your time!

1. Plan ahead

Prior to your session, think about what you want to cover. Spending the first ten or fifteen minutes making small talk while you consider what you want to talk about will cut into the time you have to actually dive into the issue.

2. Focus on one issue

While it can be tempting to try to talk about many related issues, on-demand sessions work best when you are able to identify a specific area to focus on. For ideas and examples of common topics addressed in on-demand sessions see this article on “What can be tackled in a single session”.

3. Set an agenda

Now that you’ve planned ahead and identified a key issue to talk about, it’s important to communicate this clearly to the therapist at the start of your session. By being direct at the onset you can make sure you focus on the issues that matter to you the most.

4. Focus on the now

When possible, try to focus on your current situation rather than your past experiences. Remember that your therapist is trained in short-term counselling and should be able to make sense of your story without needing extensive detail about your childhood or past experiences. Feel comfortable giving some information without detailed stories. For example, it can be helpful to say, “my parents’ divorce was very hard on me and I think it contributes to my issues with intimacy” or “I feel nervous with my team at work and believe it relates to being bullied in high school.” From there, you’ll be able to focus on your particular struggle today and how to best cope or address your concern.

5. Feel free to take notes

If anticipating there will be a lot covered, some people find it helpful to take notes either in their session or immediately afterwards. This will allow you to hold on to key insights you gained or helpful advice you received from the therapist.

Shift and Maple have partnered on our on-demand virtual therapy platform. Find out more and make an appointment here.

Loneliness and How Can We Overcome It

Loneliness and How Can We Overcome It

Is social isolation a recipe for loneliness? We don’t think so.

Sometimes we find ourselves feeling alone in a dark place. Sometimes it shows up with thoughts suggesting that no one loves us or cares about us, our experiences or our feelings. Other times, we feel an intense sense of loneliness even in a sea of people.

For those of us who may feel extremely alone in the world and empty inside, it can be a scary experience. We might cling to the adage of “fake it till you make it” as we navigate our days and time with other people, but when it comes time to return home we hide out and feel isolated and alone.

In the TV show Dexter, they talk about a concept called the Dark Passenger. While it’s often discussed in connection to addiction, I think it also applies to those of us who feel lonely. The Dark Passenger refers to the secrets we bury deep inside and try to hide even from ourselves. We repress trauma and negative thoughts which creates internal turmoil. Eventually, the Dark Passenger transforms into feelings of loneliness and pain that we carry with us as we navigate our world.

Loneliness has a serious impact on physical and mental wellness. It increases the risk of depression, anxiety, heart disease and other illnesses. Fortunately, some countries are speaking out and addressing the issue. The United Kingdom, for example, created a Ministry of Loneliness that made headlines around the world in addressing this epidemic with research-backed interventions.

Loneliness in the Workplace

According to Harvard Business Review, loneliness in the workplace is a “growing health epidemic” and “associated with a reduction in lifespan similar to that caused by smoking 15 cigarettes a day.” Even entrepreneurs may feel like no matter what they do, success is always slightly out of reach. Meanwhile, workers feel increasingly detached from their work and role in society.

Indeed, loneliness is an epidemic but we can take steps to combat the suffering at its source with reflection, connections, and psychotherapy.

Being Alone Doesn’t Always Cause Loneliness

Any introvert will agree that being alone doesn’t necessarily trigger negative emotions or feelings of worthlessness. For many of us, it can be very peaceful. We don’t always need to be surrounded by other people. Spending time with ourselves can actually inspire and energize. Solitary time on a retreat, for example, can help connect us with a higher power or meaning in life. Spending time alone to reflect and enjoy our own company is healthy.

It’s a matter of perspective, as well. Many people feel alone even surrounded by loved ones. The sources of loneliness are much deeper than that.

What’s Triggering Our Loneliness?

“We’re born alone, we live alone, we die alone. Only through our love and friendship can we create the illusion for the moment that we’re not alone.” – Orson Welles

Most of us didn’t feel lonely our entire life. We can remember feeling loved and accepted at certain points. So, what changed?

In some cases, our life experiences skew our self-perception. In other cases, we do things against our values to avoid feeling lonely, which only perpetuates self-criticism and self-imposed isolation.

Let’s look at some of the major triggers of loneliness:

Grief and Life Transitions

Grief shatters our world as we know it. Whether a mother or father, partner, best friend, or sibling, losing someone close is devastating.

The person we could always count on is suddenly removed from our lives and there’s nothing we can do to restore or replace the bond. Of course, everyone knows grief is a natural process but that doesn’t make us feel any less helpless and isolated while we go through it.

Indeed, we must relearn and rediscover the world around us. When managing a protracted war against grief, it can be helpful to connect with support systems.

I read Dr. Lucy Horne’s book, Resilient Grieving: Finding the Strength and Embracing Life After a Loss That Changes Everything last year which helps us learn to cope. Local bereavement groups are also worthwhile.

My colleague, Megan, wrote a post on grieving called “Am I Doing Grief Right?” explaining there is no “normal” way to manage grief.

Remember too that grief doesn’t only accompany death. We can also grieve our lost health, jobs, divorces, and other traumatic situations. Loss can also open the door to loneliness and transitions which I’ve written about in the past.

Breaking Up

Of course, breaking up is another form of loss. However, even people in committed relationships sometimes feel alone. People often stay in toxic or abusive relationships because they fear loneliness. However, this is nothing more than a negative prediction rife with underlying assumptions.

We assume that if we are alone, we will always be alone, we will never be happy, and we will die alone.

These thoughts create a self-fulfilling reality. Of course, being alone doesn’t guarantee misery. In some cases, breaking up leads to freedom and happiness.

Other times we fear facing life alone because we don’t want to face our true selves. However, if we want to create a healthy relationship, we must help ourselves before anything else.

Feeling alone in a relationship doesn’t have to be permanent. We can first work on the issue with our partner.

Many people assume life will never be the same after a breakup. They’re not wrong. In many cases, life becomes much better as time passes.

Shame

Sometimes we aren’t aware of our true selves. We want friends but struggle to form connections and feel alone.

Albert Einstein once said, “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again but expecting different results.”

It’s common for us to cling to unhealthy or unproductive behaviours. We don’t recognize the detrimental impact they have on our lives. Take smoking for example. Most people know it’s dangerous and costly but can’t bring themselves to quit.

These repetitive actions trigger internal distress, loneliness, and self-crisis. When we feel shame over such things, like a failed marriage, lost job, or any action we perceive as negative, we feel alone. But 1+2 doesn’t equal 5 no matter how hard we try to force it.

We think our situation is horrible, unmanageable, and our behaviour is or was so shameful that we punish ourselves. Being lonely is the by-product.

Feeling Disconnected from Family Due to Trauma

Family is a curious thing. Society tells us we should feel a sense of home in our family members. We are expected to feel connected to family. However, families are also rife with trauma. No family is perfect but pretending they should be perfect leads us to feel lonely, misunderstood, and detached around our parents and siblings.

We should develop strong boundaries and manage our personal expectations. Maybe our attachment style isn’t the best fit for our family members.

Therapy and identity rebuilding are essential to overcoming family trauma and the associated loneliness.

We can’t choose our family but we CAN choose our friends. If we feel lonely when we hang out with friends that could mean we’re not expressing our needs properly. Or, perhaps we could stand to choose better friends. Other times, we expect unreasonable things from our friends and feel invalidated when they don’t live up to our standards.

Depression / Other Mental Health Conditions

Depression is a genuine medical condition. It’s common for people to invalidate our feelings when we tell them we’re depressed. They’ll say “you just need to…” or something equally insensitive. We may even invalidate our own feelings.

It’s important for everyone to educate themselves on mental health conditions like depression, especially for anyone feeling chronically lonely. Talking to a doctor or therapist is critical.

On that note, several mental health conditions overlap with depression symptoms. Plus, we can experience multiple conditions at once. Again, that’s why it’s so important to bring up these concerns with a family doctor. We can never take our mental health too seriously.

How to Overcome Loneliness

While this is far from an exhaustive list, I hope to provide some food for thought. Feel free to take this loneliness quiz for something to reflect on.

First, we need to think about what benefits our loneliness brings to our life. Next, we should analyze the cost. The pros and cons.

Sometimes when we engage in unhealthy strategies to cope with problems, we forget why we started bad behaviours in the first place, such as compulsive drinking or seeking out a “high” from love. People do all kinds of things to avoid loneliness and self-reflection. We even push people away. Ironic, huh?

Many times, taking stock of our lives is enough to drive the motivation we need to change.

Finding Purpose in Life

Some people search their whole lives to find a “true calling” that never appears. We must ask ourselves, what does it mean to find purpose in life? Do we have to climb Mount Everest? Find a cure for cancer? Solve world hunger?

Life isn’t so all or nothing. Leading a purpose-driven life doesn’t necessarily mean collecting achievements. The book Man’s Search for Meaning got me thinking about the true meaning of life and its power. I loved it so much I gave it away to anyone who’d take it.

This book taught me how to find my “why.” Sometimes, searching for our “why” is half the fun! It helps us clarify our values and what we don’t want in life. We can discover what we value in life and if we’re living a value-driven lifestyle.

Even the CEO of a Fortune 500 company might not have time for family and might consider their life still lacks a purpose.

Another Harvard Business Review article called How Will You Measure Your Life? is a classic on this topic. We must remember that if we’re not happy and we feel alone, it may be because we don’t have a true purpose or drive. Guess what? It’s never too late to find it if we keep an open mind!

Developing Social Connections

Having 1,000 followers on Instagram doesn’t mean we can’t feel alone. In fact, research shows spending too much time on social media can lead to social isolation and feelings of loneliness.

As Dr. Jeste’s research says, loneliness is “the discrepancy between the social relationships you want and the social relationships you have.”

Tribe by journalist Sebastian Junger speaks to the importance of connections in our lives to prevent feelings of social isolation. We need meaningful connections. I would encourage everyone to think about who they can count on in their life. Who can support us financially or emotionally? Who gives us the straight truth when we ask for it?

Many times, lonely people look at who isn’t in their lives. However, I wonder how often they make themselves available to people who need them in a meaningful way. Even superheroes don’t work solo. They always have a sidekick.

Enhance Our Emotional Supports

It’s common to look fondly on the way “things used to be” when we feel lonely. It’s also a universal rule that we always want what we can’t have. However, we can take a moment to evaluate our support circle and lean into it.

People often tell me making friends as an adult is a challenge. I think it only seems hard because we get blinded by comparing our future friendships to past ones. We must test things out before we write them off as miserable. We have to lean into uncomfortable situations sometimes.

The Gen Well Project, WeShare Housing Campaign, Eden Project, and The Loneliness Project all help people get out of their comfort zone and work on enhancing social support networks.

Unplug and Connect

I’m not saying we should avoid technology and social media completely. We can create meaningful connections with people all over the world online! We can also stay connected with old friends. In the past, this wasn’t possible.

However, we also tend to spend more time than we’d like to admit staring at our screens consuming content that, honestly, we often don’t care about. We must admit we’re using screen time to procrastinate and avoid loneliness. We must also acknowledge that every hour we spend scrolling through Instagram looking at lives we wish we had is an hour lost not making real-world connections with people.

Instead, reach out and volunteer. Get inspired to build community. Volunteering is more than just working in soup kitchens. Find something interesting and meaningful like wildlife preservation, education, children, peace-building, or senior care.

Even if we aren’t lonely, helping others or working on something bigger than ourselves can build character and gratitude. In Dr. T. Davis’s new book, Outsmart Your Smartphone: Conscious Tech Habits for Finding Happiness, Balance, and Connection IRL, she explains how to help us overcome negative repetitive behaviours that prevent us from leading a fulfilling life.

In her article, Feeling Lonely? Discover 18 Ways to Overcome Loneliness, she also provides some great tips to jumpstart progress right away.

Improve Social Skills

Let’s be honest. Even the best of us could stand to improve our social skills. Many people get lonely because they don’t have adequate social skills or they lack the right social skills for all situations. Other times, social anxiety prevents them from seeing their wonderful qualities!

Most of us can be pretty charming IF we allow people to get to know us. We don’t need to be an actor or a socialite. However, we can start with effective communication! We should learn the subtle art of communicating our thoughts and emotions by getting out of our own way.

The Fine Art of Small Talk and the classic, How to Win Friends and Influence People, are two books that can help develop strategies. It’s normal for us to ruminate on past negative experiences where we felt invalidated. However, the past doesn’t predict the future. We must produce a new game plan and put forth a willingness to experience and build relationships.

Psychotherapy Can Help

Loneliness doesn’t happen by accident. It happens when we lose touch with our life’s purpose and meaningful relationships. Psychotherapy can help you strengthen social skills, overcome grief, and put yourself out there to the wider community.

Ready to start working towards that goal? Schedule an appointment today!

What to do about Burnout?

What to do about Burnout?

Ever wondered if there’s anything you can actually do about burnout?

It can feel hopeless but there are a number of ways to address it. Here we’re going to explore one possible approach to overcoming burnout.

Wait, what’s burnout again?

That can be tricky to answer. There are multiple avenues to explore when attempting to define this thing we call burnout. One of the challenges of defining the concept is that it typically involves aspects of a variety of mental health challenges, such as depression, anxiety, post-traumatic stress disorder and panic disorders. Here, I’ll use the term to highlight someone who is experiencing:

  • A lack of satisfaction in their work

  • Extreme fatigue

  • Negative attitudes and separation from the vocation

And why do we need to talk about it?

Burnout is important to discuss for a variety of reasons. First and foremost, it affects those working in helping professions as frontline workers to an exponential degree. This includes and is not limited to:

  • First responders (Emergency response workers and firefighters)

  • Social workers

  • Nurses

  • Teachers

  • Doctors

This is problematic because the folks most at risk often went into their careers because they are empathetic, caring, and compassionate individuals. Therefore, it is important to note some of the signs and risk factors for burnout so we can be vigilant in navigating if we are at risk for burnout. Some risk factors include:

  • High stress at the workplace

  • Increasing cuts to funding

  • Dangerous work environments

  • Understaffing

  • Isolation in the workspace

  • Limited access to support

  • Sexism, racism, homophobia, and transphobia existing within workspaces

What would therapy look like?

Even if it’s challenging or downright dysfunctional, we can’t always change our immediate environments to suit our needs. There are, however, practices that can be applied in everyday life that fundamentally impact how we manage stress within challenging environments. One approach is applying cognitive behavioural skills and practices. It might look like this:

1. Explore phase

The beginning of therapy would be around assessing and identifying triggers such as:

  • Organization-related challenges (budget cuts, system gaps)

  • Client-related challenges (vicarious trauma, challenging population)

  • Personal challenges (emotional demands)

  • Setting-related challenges (high caseload, dangerous work environments)

By identifying some of these stressors we will be able to target what is challenging us most at work, at home and in our relationships and adapt and respond appropriately. Although, we will not be able to change all the factors contributing to burnout, by identifying some risk factors it will help us focus in and eventually identify areas we can intervene.

2. Identify phase

The next stage involves cognitive restructuring, which is a fancy word for identifying our moods, thoughts, physical sensations and behaviours. This would look like identifying:

  • What situation triggered emotions

  • What are thoughts and beliefs tied to situations

  • What feelings and emotions are prevalent

  • What behaviours are present (lack of concentration, in ability to sleep) and noting how these situations trigger “dysfunctional thinking”

By first identifying these triggers we can then look inwards and highlight that there is some dysfunctional thinking that causes us greater challenges. Therefore, therapy would look to:

  • Assess the advantages and disadvantages of our thought patterns

  • The impacts our thoughts have on our emotions

  • Labeling cognitive distortions that we hold (overgeneralizing, mental filters, etc.)

  • Identifying implicit rules and assumptions we carry

  • Generating alternative viewpoints

3. Armour phase

The last stage would be to assist in enhancing protective factors. This can include, but is not limited to:

  • Exploring areas of “purposeful” self-care

  • Exploring self-regulation skills like deep breathing, meditation, grounding exercises

This isn’t the only way therapy for burnout can be modelled, but it’s one way that it can be used to assist those most affected by burnout. The goal is to build a strong self so that we are better able to take care of ourselves and those that we assist in our careers, families, and relationships.

References:
Maslach, C., & Leiter, M. P. (2016). Understanding the burnout experience: recent research and its implications for psychiatry. World Psychiatry, 15(2), 103–111. doi: 10.1002/wps.20311


Sean works from a strengths-based perspective — centering your unique strengths and supporting you as you build on them— and uses modalities such as cognitive behavioural therapy, mindfulness-based approaches, narrative therapy, and rational emotive behavioural therapy.